Jamal, husband to Keesha and car salesman in Burnley had struggled with addictive behaviour since his early teens. Now a 32 year old husband with a baby on the way, Jamal was in serious need of help, but he didn’t see it.
Keesha phoned Port of Call late one Thursday evening.
‘Jamal and I had had another furious row. Once again he had spent money we were saving from the baby on drugs and having not turned into work was in serious trouble with his boss. I had been telling him until I was blue in the face that drugs were to blame, yet he just wouldn’t listen to me’
Jamal spoke with Martin, an Expert by Experience at Port of Call. Martin seemed to ‘get it’ straight away – he himself had a problem with substances and he was able to relate to what Keesha and Jamal were going through. Martin suggested that he speak with Jamal and over a series of calls spanning four consecutive days Jamal came to realise that he was out of control and that if he didn’t seek help his career, marriage and livelihood was in serious jeapordy.
Jamal, now 18 months clean recalls those early conversations with Port of Call: ‘The fact that Martin had been there meant I couldn’t pull the wool over his eyes. The truth is I’d been telling half truths for years, covering up my using with lies, manipulation and justifications. Martin challenged me in the right way and I had to concede that I was living a lie and pushing my loved ones away.’
Jamal recognised that he needed an environment that was actually quite challenging. With Port of Call’s help, he found a clinic that was affordable and given that budget was an issue, Jamal shared a room in a low cost clinic. ‘Martin knew the admissions team and they quickly secured my place in treatment and I was admitted the next day. Treatment wasn’t easy but there I met people who’d been through something similar and I acquired a set of tools that I still use to this day’
Keesha feels as if she has her husband back. Their son has just turned one and one day at a time he will grow up with a Dad who loves him he doesn’t drink or use drugs.
Disclaimer: Genuine case studies from Port of Call Treatment Services. Permission has been sought from clients to tell their stories in the hope that they inspire others. Names have been changed to respect our client’s anonymity.